You can make any point and share any thought through a monolog or a dialog. On any topic, you can lecture or have a discussion. As a leader, parent, teacher, trainer, or coach, you get to decide. The difference is that when you start a dialog, people get enrolled in the conversation in contrast to being bystanders to it.
Yet when the right approach is used with the right person given their circumstances, people do change. People do achieve lasting change in their habits, behaviors, thoughts, and attitudes. People do overcome addictions, traumas, and mental illnesses. People do become patient, humble, compassionate, and empathetic. People do overcome anger, fear, and anxiety. They do permanently lose weight, exercise, and regain their health. But, yes, for some, change requires an extreme approach.
When change is a part of helping people, applying proven practices ensures the best chance of success. These practices are listed below, but before reviewing the list, …..
The importance of this real-time decision by the coach can’t be overstated. Any validation of Julie’s thinking, especially in her frame of mind, could have a lifelong impact on Julie. And not necessarily a positive one.
Decide to move past talking about what people are “doing” and talk about what people are “thinking and feeling.” Embrace the mindset that moves from asking “what are you working on?” to “how do you feel about what you are working on?”
