…. learning how to limit the negative impact others have on us could easily require reading a library of books and years of practice. There are large volumes like the PMBOK that project managers refer to when many people are being depended upon in large projects. The good news, though, is there are common-sense practices you can immediately adopt.
You can make any point and share any thought through a monolog or a dialog. On any topic, you can lecture or have a discussion. As a leader, parent, teacher, trainer, or coach, you get to decide. The difference is that when you start a dialog, people get enrolled in the conversation in contrast to being bystanders to it.
Yet when the right approach is used with the right person given their circumstances, people do change. People do achieve lasting change in their habits, behaviors, thoughts, and attitudes. People do overcome addictions, traumas, and mental illnesses. People do become patient, humble, compassionate, and empathetic. People do overcome anger, fear, and anxiety. They do permanently lose weight, exercise, and regain their health. But, yes, for some, change requires an extreme approach.
When change is a part of helping people, applying proven practices ensures the best chance of success. These practices are listed below, but before reviewing the list, …..
The importance of this real-time decision by the coach can’t be overstated. Any validation of Julie’s thinking, especially in her frame of mind, could have a lifelong impact on Julie. And not necessarily a positive one.
