Making good decisions involves considering risks, benefits, feasibility, and values, but what if no alternative is clearly better? Have you ever been stuck making a decision to stay with something or move on? Maybe a decision to stay with or leave a job? Or to stick with an existing strategy, vendor, or market? Or stay in a relationship?
Are you one who learns from difficult experiences and makes life enhancing adjustments? Or one who tries to forget them? Do you reflect on circumstances with the intent to improve yourself? Or with the hope that others will improve themselves? Do you press the save button or delete button on life’s circumstances? Some studies say this single choice is the root of people’s success … or lack of success.
But a lack of time and resource aren’t the primary reasons that many managers and parents find it difficult to empower others. The real reason is that they can’t let go.
the question many of us are asking is “will these instigators of stress ever diminish or go away?” Can we go back to a less stressful lifestyle? Or is this the new normal that we need to learn to live with?
Do you think talking versus asking and listening is an important distinction? Does it really matter if someone likes to do most of the talking? If the answer isn’t clear, here are a few circumstances to consider:
