Great leaders don’t focus on results. They focus on that which produces results. If organizations, families, or virtually any group of people want to achieve success as a whole, the best way is to help those within the group achieve their individual success.
What is clear is that whether expecting, establishing, or rebuilding trust, there are many elements to consider. Listed below is a list. Use it as a checklist in your relationships to gauge the extent to which trust is present.
You can make any point and share any thought through a monolog or a dialog. On any topic, you can lecture or have a discussion. As a leader, parent, teacher, trainer, or coach, you get to decide. The difference is that when you start a dialog, people get enrolled in the conversation in contrast to being bystanders to it.
Yet when the right approach is used with the right person given their circumstances, people do change. People do achieve lasting change in their habits, behaviors, thoughts, and attitudes. People do overcome addictions, traumas, and mental illnesses. People do become patient, humble, compassionate, and empathetic. People do overcome anger, fear, and anxiety. They do permanently lose weight, exercise, and regain their health. But, yes, for some, change requires an extreme approach.
What makes conflict especially difficult is when it becomes a cycle. One person says or does something, an action, that triggers another person to say or do something in response, a reaction. The reaction then triggers the initial person to say or do something else which then starts a cycle that repeats and deepens the conflict.
